Does a perceived 'fail' mean you bail, or 'prevail'?


I have spent a wonderful day working alongside leaders analysing and developing their Emotional Capital. When one is faced with the results from a 360 it can be both affirming and challenging. It is a pivotal time where the voice of others and their perspective of certain aspects of your leadership are shared. 

Many elements come into play when one interprets the information, yet it is what you do with it that truely matters; will you 'bail' or will you 'prevail'?

Instant reactions for some people (if perceived as negative) may be to bail; to say this is too hard, too much or I can't do this. But when you apply a bit of what I like to call 'grit', you are able to take another look at the data and start to strategise around how you might do things differently. We know we cannot change anyone else but ourselves, and this is the place to start. Bringing a sense of curiosity and 'lightness' to what you are trialling/experimenting-with can take the seriousness away from the situation and allow us the ability to inquire into our take calculated risks and to approach it with a growth mind-set.

So how do you perceive challenges or negative feedback; does it make you want to run? ... Or is it a learning opportunity that makes you want to persist and grow? What is it that you need to do to turn your thinking around when you get those negative reactions? How quickly can you turn those thoughts around? 

Do you dare to go there? Do you gain that feedback? Are you open to learning?